The Biggest Breakup No-No's You Should Follow
There are certain things that you should do after a breakup, but there is also some big No No's that you should avoid doing after your relationship ends. It can be difficult to avoid certain behaviors after a breakup, especially when it is fresh, but following through on momentary whims will do you more harm than good. So, if you want to get through your breakup in one piece, here are is what you should avoid doing:
Contact your ex
You're alone at home, holding your phone, and scrolling through your texts with your ex. This is an all too familiar scenario after breakups that can lead to a very harmful move – texting the ex. While it is hard to cut off all communications after splitting up, you should avoid contacting your ex as hard as you can. You need closure, and you will never get it if you contact your ex. If you need to return things, have a friend do it, and if you get the itch contact your ex, take a walk, call a friend, or watch a movie instead. Just do not write that text or pick up the phone for a call.
Search them on social media
After you break up with your partner, their social media profiles should be off-limits to you. It is very tempting to stare at your ex's social media accounts after a breakup, but it will only make the situation much more difficult. Furthermore, after several weeks have passed since the breakup, you should unfollow your ex on social media. That way, you won’t obsess with what your ex is doing, who their seeing, and you will be able to move on with your life much more easily.
Ask mutual friends about your ex
Once you and your partner break up, you no longer have any say in what happens to them. So, why ask friends about what goes on in your partner's life? obsessing over your asking and feeding your curiosity about their actions will do you no good, so let bygones be bygones and stop asking about your ex.
Jump into 'friends' mode with the ex
It is possible to be friends with exes, but in order for a friendly relationship to work, you need to heal from the breakup and get past your romantic feelings. This does not happen in a day nor does it happen in a month, so you should wait before getting straight into friendship mode. Give yourself time to heal, and work on your issues, and once you and your ex are in a healthier place, you can start talking about being friends, and not a second sooner.
Stop your self-care game
After a breakup, your daily routine can suddenly seem impossible, which is natural; you feel depressed, your lacking energy, and you just want to get through the days in one piece. However, your routine, however tasking it may seem, will only help you get through the rough patch. Cook yourself nice meals, indulge in sweets from time to time, go to your favorite exercise class, and try to maintain a healthy routine that you need more than ever.
Post the breakup on social media
Try to be the bigger person, and do not bash your ex on social media, even if you have a good reason. Posting intimate details or complaints on social media may feel good in the heat of the moment, but you will regret it once you settle down. So, try to be mature, and leave social media out of your breakup.
Repress your emotions
Some people tend to go on and on about their breakups while others keep quiet and do not say anything about it. If you identify with the ladder, then you should stop. Bottling up your emotions and putting on a brave face will not do you any good. The negative feeling that you have after a breakup will bubble up one way or another, so if you want to avoid lashing out, talk about your feelings and air out whatever is going on inside.
Avoid friends and family
One of the best ways to get over a breakup is to is by surrounding yourself with people that you love. In the first few days after a breakup, you will probably want to be alone, and that is fine, but do not shut out the people who care about you. Healing from a breakup requires a village sometimes, and your friends and family will help you get through the rough patch much better than you alone. So, call up the people that you love and begin healing.
Breakups can make us feel like the world has turned upside down, but the world keeps spinning even when our hearts are broken. If you got out of a relationship, you will want to do things that may harm you, and as hard as it is, there are behaviors that you should avoid. It will make you stronger and make the healing process easier.
